By: Sydni Dobson
What is a Sugar Daddy or a Sugar Baby? Well, a sugar daddy tends to be an older rich man who lavishes gifts on a young woman in return for her company or sexual favors. A sugar baby is a young woman who receives cash, gifts or other benefits in exchange for being in a relationship. Sometimes, this practice is called “sugaring.”
While sugaring is the new trend amongst women and older men across the world, many are quick to label this movement as a form of prostitution. However, this is not the case amongst the participants of this lifestyle. The difference between prostitution and sugaring is as simple as the difference between a relationship vs. a transaction between two people, according to those who profit from it. Seekingarrangements.com explains the difference:
The glamorous lifestyle promised by sugar websites is actually a pretty dangerous lifestyle. In fact, sugaring is on the same continuum as prostitution and sex trafficking.
The largest population of sugar babies are women in college looking to be relieved of their thousands of dollars in college debt. According to Seeking Arrangement founder, Brandon Wade, of the site’s approximately 800,000 members, an estimated 35 percent are students.
Having someone pay off of your college debt sounds like a beautiful thing, right? Of course it does! However, everything that pays off a price, comes with a price to pay. With being in a relationship with a sugar daddy, there are terms of agreement that one has to follow. A person isn’t reaping the same benefits a normal relationship would give them. As a sugar baby, you have to be discreet about your relationship and know that you aren’t the number one priority on your sugar daddy’s list. In addition to that, you have to cater to his “needs”-whether his needs are emotional, supportive or sexual.
Imagine being in a relationship where it isn’t about you nor isn’t about what you want to do. It is a matter of this is what you have to do in order to get by or achieve your goals. Doesn’t sound like your typical fairytale romance, does it? This doesn’t go for all sugar babies. Some sugar babies are satisfied with their relationship and are okay with the choices they’ve made to finance themselves. However, many sugar babies are just ready for the relationship or act to be over. One woman spoke to the Huffington Post about her experience being a sugar baby: “I just wanted to get it over and done with as quickly as possible.” “I just wanted to get out of that situation as safely as possible, pay off my debt, and move on.”
All of these situations are accepted because of the oversexualization of women and girls.
This Never for Sale website touches on the normalization of making women sex objects: Never for Sale .
The early signs of human trafficking are similar to the same process of finding and receiving a sugar daddy. Most women go in looking for financial support and love, yet end up in a relationship where they have to use their body in order to satisfy their “boyfriends.”
So again, I ask…Sugar; is it still sweet?